Tell your ‘Boring’ Stories

Lena Dunham ❤

In spite of writer’s block and simply not making time to write as often as I should, I still call myself a writer. I believe in stories; that a life is made up of so many chapters, narratives, and essays that it’s difficult to keep track of which part of the book you’re living in.

Last week while speaking with Amanda DiPasquale and Sociphoria we discussed the real truth (not alternative fact) that blogs are dying. When it comes to social media, blogs are secondary to Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat (Facebook is dead to me).  No one wants to read thousand word essays or posts. People want photos, videos, and 200 words or less. I know it’s true but I wish it wasn’t so for  few reasons.

  1. People don’t seek out what I write about
  2. People don’t write what I like to read

Maybe I write too personally. Maybe more things should kept private. Even my fiction is utterly revealing. I understand the desire for privacy. There is so much pressure to share everything that there comes a point where you don’t even feel like you own your life. There also comes a point where you realize that no one cares.

Well, I care.

I care about your stories as much as your outfit; okay I care way more about your stories than what you’re wearing. I care about whatever you have to say in a thousand words or less because while I’m reading them I feel less alone. For those 10 or 15 minutes I have someone to relate to. I am understood. I feel connected to the universe even though I’m staring at a screen. Stories connect us, that’s why I care.

I care because we’re all just stories; good, bad, and boring.

Care-fully yours,

Vanessa xo

Podcasting with the Sociphoria Duo

Last week I was invited to sit down with Amanda and Patrick from Sociphoria and join in on their podcast. This duo has amazing chemistry and make their listeners feel like they’re part of the conversation. They tackle topics from Pokemon to happiness to dealing with people who are getting the best of you – they have their own witty spin on each topic and make it easy for the listener to think hey, I’ve been there too! 

We recorded two podcasts, one about the emotional effects of social media and the other about making compromises. As we sat close together, huddled around a tiny microphone I completely forgot about what we were doing and had two of the most honest and thought-provoking conversations I’ve had in a long time.

Am I the only one who forgets what it’s like to have a conversation with someone without simultaneously scrolling through your Instagram feed?  I had my phone beside me but didn’t bother looking at it. Instead I focussed on the people beside me and the thoughts bouncing around in my head. I felt free, conscious, and confident in the words that came out of my mouth. I remembered for an instant what it is like to have your voice heard, to be listened to, to have an opinion. Too often I focus on the written word and I’m glad that this podcast experience reminded me that my vocals are powerful too.

Click the link below to check out the first podcast we recorded – I haven’t listened to it yet but I would LOVE to hear your thoughts.


Talkatively yours,

Vanessa xo